Baby Loss Awareness 

Baby Loss Awareness Week

Lossing a child is a devasting experience, however, we often do not talk about it due to the stigma associated. We are often programmed to suppress and contain our feelings which later on build-up to be bigger than life.   Whether our loss is an early miscarriage or after birth, the time we spend being pregnant or holding our babies in our hands can never be enough.  That is why it is important to honour the lives of our babies however long they existed physically in our lives.  Energetically we are surrounded by our babies because we never stop loving them and our love keeps them alive in our everyday lives.  We may not vocalise about this but the experience of being a mother will always be within our hearts, the core of our being. 

 

 

I”m sharing some clips of my feature on 9th October 2020 on BBC Midlands, 12th October 2020 on BBC Radio WM and talking about Baby Loss Awareness Week to inspire others to slowly start reaching out for help and healing.

 

When we went for our 20 week scan they told us there as no heart beat.

by Caroline Martin & Arty Amarisa | BBC Radio WM

My invitation to you is to explore the below resources in terms of

Support Groups and

Self-help tools

to empower you to navigate through the loss of your child.

Sands (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Charity)

Sands provides bereavement support services both nationally through its Freephone helpline, mobile app, online community and resources, and locally through a UK-wide network of around 100 regional support groups. 

Baby Loss Awareness Week Facebook Group

This group is a place to share your stories, thoughts and feelings and connect with others that have experienced pregnancy loss and/or the death of a child.

The Lily Mae Foundation

Supporting Parents & Families after a stillbirth, Neonatal Death, Miscarriage or Medical Termination 

Bach Flower Remedies

There are 38 remedies in the Bach remedy system. All of them were discovered in the 1920s and 1930s by Dr Edward Bach, a well-known bacteriologist, physician, and pathologist.

Each remedy is associated with a basic human emotion. Mimulus, for example, is for when we are anxious or afraid about something specific. Taking the remedy helps us overcome our fear and face it with courage.

Space to Think

Think is a notebook for people new to the Bach Flower remedies that gives space to reflect in writing on your thoughts and feelings in response to the quotes on each page. Each quote is paired with a remedy, suggesting a possible way forward. This can be purchased directly from the author by emailing Lesley on lac.ttc@gmail.com

Association of Reflexologists

Reflexology is a wonderful gentle hands on treatment of applying pressure on hands, feet, or face to help you feel balanced and relaxed.

Navigating and validating your experience of loss to be empowered with peace

 

 

At 20 weeks when I was told that my baby had no heart beat I had to give birth to her.  Whilst I was in shock and disbelief I was as well prepared as I could be for the events that followed on.   Sometimes life throws at you certain things that take you by surprise and when you are able to take time and reflect you realise how much love and support there is around you.  In my role as Complementary Health and Psychology Practitioner, just 6 months before I lost Alma I had completed a course delivered by Sands – Stillbirth & Neonatal Death Charity.  The course was on ‘Pregnancy loss and the death of a baby: Sands Training for Professionals.  So when I heard the words, “there is no heartbeat’, I knew exactly what to expect. I could take the role of the savior and support my family members to go through this grief.

A month before I had to give birth to Alma I obtained by Birthlight Diploma in Perinatal Yoga.  This gave me the tools to go through the process of stillbirth with sadness yet with a natural ease which made it physically less distressing.  My midwife said, “I breathed out my baby.”  She had tears in our eyes and I will forget the look of compassion in her eyes.

So here I am sharing with you some of the positive overwhelm I experienced alongside the tools which helped me along the way. The purpose this program is to experience Alma – Acknowledge loving mothering awareness.  Love is all around you, you just need to slow down to feel it.  Whilst I appreciate not everyone is ready for this awareness when you are ready, you will find me here welcoming you to Alma – Acknowledge loving mothering awareness.

After the loss of our child we just stop breathing, stop believing.  Nothing makes sense anymore and we just do not care.  These are feelings we go through and it does not get better because those feelings want to pull you down and their weight is overburdening.  However through self-care and introspection, you can elevate yourself above all this.  The feelings and the sadness remains but you just rise above it.  Motherhood is one of the most beautiful journeys we go through as a woman.  However, motherhood does not define us it is just one of our characteristics.  So let us find out more about our own selves, who we are.  This will then in turn help us be better mothers to our angel babies and those on earth.  Alma Program helps you feel safe to be in the present moment and find out what you need on your journey of self-discovery and healing.  You can book one of the sessions and use it as a passing place where you can just come and go or spend some time until you feel strong enough to fly again. You can also book a package of sessions to build your inner emotional resilience.